Who is a Compassionate Listener?

Who is a Compassionate Listener?

It is difficult to become a good listener who both validates the pain of the other, while maintaining the ability to look at themselves. Each person must listen compassionately to themselves and each other.

Within many relationships, rather than engaging in compassionate listening, many couples polarize. One partner is the voice of reason, the head, while the other partner is the voice of emotion, the heart. These patterns often create communication problems, which hardly begins to touch on the angst that can be felt between couples.

While, listening with both our hearts and our heads is valuable, neither is complete by itself, because listening with both makes one complete person. Someone who uses just their head while listening

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is using their intellect and knowledge, and when used individually, without the hearts part, it can be cold and indifferent. When listening with just the heart compassion turns into confused feelings.

A compassionate listener is someone who listens with both their head and their heart.

Here are traits of a compassionate listener:

1. They are commited to listening.

2. They have the intention of understanding, as deeply as possible, the message and concerns
of others.

3. They seek to understand the reality of another through both compassion and understanding.

4. They refrain from verbal and nonverbal judgments.

5. They are physically and mentally ready to listen.

6. They validate their understanding of the other`s reality before expressing their opinion.

7. They create a balance between their head and their heart.

8. They remain present and are in the here and now.

9. They are open to new learning experiences about their own behaviors.

10. They self-evaluate and can laugh at themselves.

Copyright 2005 Linda Miles Ph.D

Author, Dr. Linda Miles, is deeply committed to helping individuals and couples achieve rewarding relationships. She is an expert with a doctorate in Counseling Psychology, and has worked in the mental health field for over thirty years. She has been interviewed extensively on radio, TV, and in newspapers and magazines. Find more relationship ideas and relaxation techniques on her web site and in the award-winning book she co-authored, The New Marriage: Transcending the Happily-Ever-After Myth, and Train Your Brain: For Successful Relationships, CD. http://www.drlindamiles.com

Choose From A Variety Of Wedding Flower Packages

Your wedding is one of the most important days of your life and you will need to start your planning early if you are going to ensure that everything is in place for the big day. But the prospect of planning your wedding can be daunting to say the least. There are one hundred and one things to attend to and it is often hard to know where to start.

One major aspect of any wedding is the provision of flowers including the bride’s bouquet, the bridesmaids’ flowers, buttonholes, corsages, flowers for the ceremony and flowers for the reception. It’s no wonder therefore that many couples hand responsibility for the flowers to somebody else and opt for one of the numerous wedding flower packages available today.

Weddings are big business and represent a substantial stream of income for many people including caterers, photographers and florists so you’ll find that most florists will be more than used to providing wedding flower packages. But while this might make life easier for you, are you going to get the wedding flowers that you want without having to pay an arm and a leg for them?

Although wedding flowers are often seen as simply decoration they are in reality much mor

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